Complaining about your failures is useless. The biggest shifts in your life probably happened when you got fired in humiliation or a partner walked out. The worst moments are the best teachers.

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• True — until you get kicked in the ass, you won't move. Comfort turns us into lazy jelly.
• That's romanticizing trauma. It's much better to grow when you're calm, fed, and have money — not when you're picking up the pieces.
• A crisis teaches nothing by itself — it just wounds you. What teaches is how you crawl out of it (if you even find the strength).