Cold professional at work, warm parent at home, someone else again at the bar. Some say the split exists so we can take part in things our conscience would refuse.

Options

• It is survival. Feel everything at work and you are done in two weeks
• It is hypocrisy. I want to be the same person in both rooms
• The danger is real — it is how people sign off on things they would never defend
• We are overcomplicating. Behaving well at work is manners, not a conspiracy