"Find your true self" assumes there is one under the masks. What if what you call your self is mostly old habits and grooves you fell into as a child?

Options

• Nonsense. My desires are me, and they need defending
• Agreed. A self is not found, it is built and trained
• Both. Learn your patterns first, then decide which ones stay
• Who cares whether it is habit or essence — I like my couch and my beer
• Looking for a self is like looking for the blue in the sky